# Topic Tango Topic Tango is a fun 1-on-1 **social game** you can play on Wusoup to help **break the ice** and **get to know someone better** 🕺 It helps you and your Tango (chat) partner **choose topics for discussion or (friendly!) debate**. It's **low-stress**: most topics are very light, and you can't ever end up with a topic you don't want 🫶 ### Step 1 - invite someone Hit the **Tango button** on someone's profile to invite them to play: ![[Assets/ss-tango-01.png]] They **must be online** and they'll only be notified if they're **currently looking at your profile**, so this is best to do when you're already chatting. Your partner will see a **subtle notification** on their side: ![[Assets/ss-tango-02.png]] If they accept (hit their button too), the **Tango starts**! ### Step 2 - agree on a topic You'll both get 40 seconds to **choose a topic you like** from a list: ![[Assets/ss-tango-03.png]] - If you **both agree on the topic** you'll move on to **Step 3** - Otherwise you'll get **new topic options** - There's **zero pressure** to choose a topic you don't like! Feel free to pick "None of these" ✌️ > [!warning] Spice > Some advanced topics may be **spicy** (🌶️) or **extra spicy** (🌶️🌶️). You generally only want to choose these with **partners you trust**, and please remember Wusoup's strict rules about [[About/Community Standards#3. No **aggressive** or **hateful** content|respectful debate]]! 🙏 ### Step 3 - respond You now both get a minute to **write an initial response** to the chosen topic: ![[Assets/ss-tango-04.png]] Hit **Ready to discuss** whenever you're done 🎸 ### Step 4 - discuss! Once you're both ready, your **responses will be shared** in your Wusoup chat - and you're free to **discuss or debate** as long as you like! The topics and initial "responses" are only there to help get things started 😊 If/when you're in the mood for **another topic**, just hit the Tango button again: ![[Assets/ss-tango-05.png]] ## Tips - It's good etiquette to **ask first** if you want to Tango with someone! This also helps make sure that they're **looking at your profile** and can see the Tango notification. - Both partners must **agree to a topic**! Part of the fun of Tango is trying to anticipate what topic your partner might choose/enjoy. - Avoid **spicy topics** unless you've already built up trust with someone. Go slowly, it's not a race! - Topics **you choose often** will come up more often, though not right away. - Topics **the community chooses often** will also come up more often. - Topic Tango **requires your attention**, it's not meant for multi-tasking. If you leave a Tango, the **Tango will end**. ## Motivation A common problem on Wusoup is that people really _want_ to connect with others, but they just don't know how. Or they struggle to get a chat beyond the superficial stage. Keeping up an interesting chat (especially one that gets below the surface) takes skill, patience, a proficient partner, and often luck. My hope is for Topic Tango to provide a fun + low-stress way to help make this easier for more people. It's a **double consent** game: both partners need to opt-in to play, and both partners need to opt-in to any given topic. So there's no risk of getting stuck with something you don't want to discuss 😅 All topics are carefully written to help folks **connect while having fun**. There's 3 categories / difficulty levels: - **Easy**: these are generally optimistic, funny, silly, etc. They make great openers, or any time you feel like a pick-me-up. - **Spicy**: these are thought-provoking, sometimes a little challenging. They can help prompt deeper discussions. - **Extra spicy**: these are advanced topics to help really get beneath the surface for folks that enjoy a more rigorous debate. As always, [[About/Contact|feedback]] very welcome! 🙏 - Peter